Counseling Resources, FAQs, and Helpful Links
Frequently Asked Questions
Is therapy right for me?
Do I really need therapy? I can usually handle my problems.
How can therapy help me?
A number of benefits are available from participating in psychotherapy. Therapists can provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies for issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship troubles, unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress management, body image issues, and creative blocks. Many people also find that counselors can be a tremendous asset to managing personal growth, interpersonal relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, and the hassles of daily life. Therapists can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn. Some of the benefits available from therapy include:
- Attaining a better understanding of yourself, your goals, and values
- Developing skills for improving your relationships
- Finding resolution to the issues or concerns that led you to seek therapy
- Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
- Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
- Improving communications and listening skills
- Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
- Discovering new ways to solve problems in your family or marriage
- Improving your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence
What is therapy like?
Every therapy session is unique and caters to each individual and their specific goals. It is standard for therapists to discuss the primary issues and concerns in your life during therapy sessions. It is common to schedule a series of weekly sessions, where each session lasts around 50 minutes. Therapy can be short-term, focusing on a specific issue, or longer-term, addressing more complex issues or ongoing personal growth. There may be times when you are asked to take certain actions outside of the therapy sessions, such as reading a relevant book or keeping records to track certain behaviors. It is important to process what has been discussed and integrate it into your life between sessions. For therapy to be most effective, you must be an active participant, both during and between the sessions. People seeking psychotherapy are willing to take responsibility for their actions, work toward self-change and create greater awareness in their lives. Here are some things you can expect out of therapy:
- Compassion, respect, and understanding
- Perspectives to illuminate persistent patterns and negative feelings
- Real strategies for enacting positive change
- Effective and proven techniques along with practical guidance
Is medication a substitute for therapy?
Do you accept insurance? How does insurance work?
I don’t bill insurance directly. Instead, clients who utilize their insurance coverage pay for therapy out of pocket; I then give them a receipt they can use to self-file with their insurance (a superbill). Keep in mind that insurance always requires a diagnosis be documented, which I’ll discuss with you before recording it. To determine if you have mental health coverage and what it will cover, the first thing you should do is check with your insurance carrier or benefits coordinator. Check your coverage carefully and find the answers to the following questions:
- What are my mental health benefits?
- What is the coverage amount per therapy session?
- How many therapy sessions does my plan cover?
- How much does my insurance pay for an out-of-network provider?
- What is my deductible for out-of-network coverage?
- Is approval required from my primary care physician?
Is therapy confidential?
However, there are some exceptions required by law to this rule. Exceptions include:
- Suspected child abuse or dependant adult or elder abuse. The therapist is required to report this to the appropriate authorities immediately.
- If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person. The therapist is required to notify the police.
- If a client intends to harm himself or herself. The therapist will make every effort to work with the individual to ensure their safety. However, if an individual does not cooperate, additional measures may need to be taken.
Helpful Links
Please note that clicking on a link here will take you away from my website. Even though I offer links to helpful sites, I do not necessarily agree with all treatment philosophies or theological beliefs on these sites.
Mental Health
https://medlineplus.gov/depression.html – A helpful link for those seeking to better understand depression.
Marriage and Family
Recommended Reading
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman – Gottman writes in a way that helps the reader understand the elements of both good and bad marriages. He has practical – and doable – exercises for each section.
A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God’s Gift of Sexual Intimacy by Doug Rosenau – Having studied under Rosenau, I can affirm that he is the real deal. Celebration of Sex is a practical book that will help a couple grow their intimacy.
Sexual Addiction
https://new.recoveryzone.com/PublicSurvey/Home – A sexual addiction screening quiz. I don’t put much stock in these. However, this assessment comes from the work of Patrick Carnes, who is a genuine expert in treating sexual addiction and whose work I admire and use in my therapy.
https://sexhelp.com/ – Patrick Carnes’ website.
https://sexhelp.com/educate/ – Patrick Carnes defines sexual addiction and signs that sex may be a problem.
Recommended Reading
Healing the wounds of sexual addiction by Mark Laaser – Amazon.com link to an excellent book that defines sexual addiction and lays out the journey of healing for the sexual addict.
Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed by Debra Laaser – Amazon.com link to an excellent book that helps the wife of a sexually addicted husband walk the path of healing.
Men’s Issues
https://illuman.org – Illuman is an organization whose vision is “helping men deepen in connection with ourselves, others, and the needs of the world.”
Personal Growth
Recommended Reading
How People Grow: What the Bible Reveals About Personal Growth by Henry Cloud and John Townsend – A perspective of personal growth that Christians can appreciate and embrace.
Boundaries: When to Say YES, When to Say NO, To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend – Boundaries is one section of Cloud and Townsend’s book How People Grow (above). They received so many questions about what it meant and how to develop healthy boundaries that they wrote a book – in fact many books – about it.
StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath – StrenghtsFinder 2.0 takes an in-depth look at strengths of the human psyche rather than pathologies. Includes an accesscode to an online assessment to find your top five strengths.
EMDR
https://www.emdrhap.org/about/what-is-emdr/ – An excellent description of what EMDR is and how it works.
https://www.emdria.org/blog/the-eight-phases-of-emdr-therapy/ – Deeper introduction to the 8 phases of EMDR.
Coaching
https://www.myersbriggs.org/type-in-my-life/personality-type-and-organizations/ – The Myers-Briggs is an established personality assessment that helps people understand their strengths and weaknesses in everyday life and in a work environment.
Spiritual Growth and Direction
https://conversationsjournal.com/ – A thoughtful publication that challenges individual and churches in their spiritual growth. Contributing authors include Gary Moon, Dallas Willard, David Benner, Richard Foster, and many others.
Recommended Reading
Soulful Spirituality: Becoming Fully Alive and Deeply Human – Benner draws deep and thoughtful connections linking the body and the spiritual life. To be deeply spiritual is to become deeply and fully human. Benner draws on Jesus’ example and experiences (i.e., bodily resurrection and ascension in his body) to point out that the deeply spiritual experience is a deeply human experience.
